A Real Limit Makes You Worth Waiting For
State the limit you already have and its reason, and never make one up.
Flowers by Janie is a floral studio in Calgary that designs wedding flowers. In 2015, its team did seven weddings on the same day. The studio writes on its website that it was “too much to keep in constant communication with that many couples and logistically to make sure things were picked up at the proper times.” All seven orders were filled and the couples were happy, but the day was “physically draining for our team.”
The studio has a minimum spend, which is the smallest budget it will take on for a wedding. For a wedding in Calgary, the minimum is “currently $5,000 +gst but is adjusted each year.”
The studio gives three reasons for the minimum. The third, which it calls the most important, is that the minimum lets the team look after each couple better. The day of seven weddings is the example it gives for that reason.
Some florists, the studio notes, “take up to 10 or more wedding bookings per weekend.” Its own team could take on 10 weddings a weekend but chooses not to, “in order to provide better client care.”
A couple who reads that page learns two facts at once. The florist is hard to get, and the florist has a good reason for it.
When you tell clients about your own limit, give them the same two facts together, the limit and the reason for it.
People want what is hard to get, until they feel pushed
In his book Influence, Robert Cialdini lists scarcity among the seven principles of persuasion. He also teaches readers how to defend themselves against people who use these principles to pressure them unfairly.
Your clients also defend themselves when they feel someone is pressuring them. They push back, and they often turn away from the person pushing.
So a limit can work for you or against you, depending on where it comes from. A real limit comes from how much work you can do well. It can also come from the kind of client you have chosen to serve. A limit makes a client want you more only when the limit is true and you can explain it.
An invented limit exists to hurry the client. For example, an event planner might tell a caller that her calendar is almost full when it is not. The client feels pushed, so they step back and book someone who is not pushing them.
Before you mention a limit to a client, check where it comes from.
One designer’s returning clients wait, and another’s new clients will not
In 2020, Business of Home asked eight interior designers whether they keep a waitlist for new clients. The designers gave different answers.
Mark Lavender, a designer in Winnetka, Illinois, said that his firm can usually adjust its schedule to fit in new clients. Over the past year, though, the firm’s workload grew. So the firm began offering some returning clients a place on a waitlist.
“We have found that by explaining our current workload and offering a realistic start date, most clients will choose to wait for us and we do our best to make sure that start date happens,” he said. So when Lavender’s returning clients hear why there is a wait and get a start date, most of them wait.
When a client will not wait, the firm will “typically refer them to another designer,” and there are times when another designer will “return the favor.”
Allison Babcock, a designer in Sag Harbor, New York, had a different experience. She sometimes offers a waitlist. When she especially wants a project, she tells the new client that she would love to work with them but “wouldn’t be able to start for a couple of months.” Even so, she found that “no one is willing to wait on anything.”
The two designers disagree, and the reason may be the kind of client each one was talking about. Lavender offered his waitlist to returning clients, who had hired his firm before. Babcock was talking about new clients, who were still deciding whether to hire her, and she gave them a start date too.
So expect that a client who has hired you before may wait for you. Many new clients will not wait, even when you explain your limit and give them a start date.
When a new client cannot wait, give them the name of someone you trust, as Lavender does. Then the client leaves with help instead of a plain no. Keep your limit where it is.
A writing coach gives her reason and the true length of her wait
Monica Cox coaches writers while they revise their stories. In June 2026, she wrote on her Substack that she was starting a waitlist. Her reason was that when a coach takes on too many writers at once, “the quality of attention on the work drops, writers feel like a number, breakthroughs take longer.”
Then she told her readers how long the wait was. “Right now, I have openings in July. So the wait may be short or non-existent!”
Cox’s limit comes from how many writers she can give her full attention to. So she has no need to make the wait sound long.
When you state a limit, give the reason with it. Then say when you have an opening.
A designer’s long waitlist is a no he will not say
Max Humphrey, a designer in Portland, Oregon, uses a different kind of waitlist. He told Business of Home that “if I get a new client request and I’m not stoked about it, I’ll tell them I have a long waitlist.”
Humphrey called the waitlist “my passive-aggressive way of turning a project down without actually having to turn it down.” If he says a plain no to a new client, he worries that “it will come back to haunt me.”
Humphrey’s waitlist breaks the rule that a limit must be real. He uses the waitlist to say no without saying it.
A made-up waitlist puts a designer’s reputation and referrals at risk. A client who hears about a long waitlist may tell friends that the designer is too busy for new work. Those friends then call someone else. Or two clients compare notes and find that one was told to wait while the other started right away. After that, neither client knows whether to believe the designer.
If you do not want to take on a client, tell them kindly that you are not the right person. Then give them the name of someone who would suit them better. For example, a home organizer can say, “I do not think I am the right organizer for a whole-house move. Carla Mendez does moves like yours every month, and I would be glad to introduce you.”
A photographer’s small number is often a drop in bookings
Dale Weeks, a wedding photographer, wrote a post on why wedding photographers fail. In his account, many photographers raise their prices steadily until they reach “a ceiling,” with fewer inquiries and fewer couples willing to pay.
He writes, “That’s when you start hearing, ‘Oh, I only do 10 weddings a year now.’ Often, that’s not a choice.” Those photographers “stop getting booked at their higher price, so they diversify.”
The photographers Weeks describes are calling a drop in bookings a choice, so their limit is not real. When a couple asks one of them why they take only 10 weddings, the photographer cannot give the true reason. The true reason is that fewer couples are booking.
If your bookings have slowed, do not describe the drop as a limit. Tell clients that you have dates open. Then put your effort into finding out why fewer clients are booking.
Why claiming a limit you do not have goes wrong
Imagine a wedding photographer named Anya who reads that clients want what is hard to get. She adds “now accepting a limited number of clients” to her booking page, although the calendar on the same page shows most of the season’s dates still free.
A man planning his wedding, Mr. Sato, calls her. He asks how many weddings she takes a year and when her next opening is.
Anya has no number, because she wrote the sentence on her booking page to sound busy. She pauses, and then she tells him that she is flexible.
Mr. Sato looks at the calendar full of open dates and believes the calendar instead of Anya’s answer. He thanks Anya, says he will think about it, and ends the call. He does not call her back.
The next day, Mr. Sato calls another photographer, Lena. She tells him, “I take 24 weddings a year, so that I can edit every gallery myself. I have three dates left this season.” Mr. Sato books Lena.
Anya’s answer and her calendar disagree, and Mr. Sato believes the one that is harder to fake. In contrast, Lena’s limit is real, so she can give the number and the reason as soon as he asks.
Decide on your limit first. Base it on how much work you can do well or on the clients you have chosen to serve. State your limit with its reason. Then keep to your limit when a client tests it.
A true limit is not a trick, even when it costs you a client
Telling a client that you have a limit can feel uncomfortable. It can sound like playing hard to get, and it can send a client to someone else.
A limit is a trick only when it is untrue. A true limit, given with its reason, is a fact the client needs in order to plan. A couple planning a wedding wants to know early whether the florist can take their date.
Stating your limit will cost you some clients, as Babcock found with her new clients. Your limit is there whether you state it or not, though. A professional who takes every client who asks can end up with a day like the florist’s seven weddings.
You also do not need a full calendar to state a limit. Cox had openings the next month, and she told her readers about them in the same post.
How to state your limit
- Find the limit you already have. Open your calendar and find the busiest month in which your work was still at its best. Count the clients you served that month, and treat that number as your limit. Your limit may instead be the kind of client you have chosen to serve. If you have no limit, do not invent one.
- Write the limit and its reason in one sentence. Where your limit is a number, give the number. Where your limit is a choice, name the kind of client or project you take. For example, a tutor might say, “I take eight new students a term, so that I can read every essay myself.” A specialist realtor might say, “I work only with families moving here from abroad, because I know the schools and the paperwork they will need.”
- Put that sentence on your pricing page and in the reply where you quote your price. Now a client who sees your reason next to your price can tell that your limit is real.
- When you reach your limit, tell the new client that you cannot take them on now, and offer your next opening. For example, a dog walker can say, “I walk six dogs a day, and all six places are taken. My next opening is in March. If you need someone sooner, I can give you the name of a walker I trust.” A limit that stretches whenever a client pushes tells the client that it was not real.
- Remove any sentence that suggests a limit you do not have, such as a countdown to a deadline that does not exist. Replace it with what is true, even if what is true is that you have an opening next week. For example, a photographer can write, “I have dates open in June and July.”
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